Consent

Consent is Sexy! AND MANDATORY

Whether you are starting a new relationship, navigating a long-term partnership, or partaking in a casual sexual encounter or kink scene, knowing what consent looks like helps create a safer, more respectful interaction that supports the emotional and physical well-being of all participants.

What is Consent?

Consent is a mutual agreement to engage in sexual activity. It should ALWAYS be clear, voluntary, and communicated without pressure, manipulation, or fear. Everyone involved must be capable of giving consent. This means they are:

• Of legal age
• Sober and Alert
• Not under coercion or threat

Consent isn’t just a one-time check-in. It is an ongoing conversation. You need consent every time, for every type of activity. Just because someone said yes in the past doesn’t mean they’re saying yes now. Just because someone agreed to one thing doesn’t mean they’re okay with everything.

How to Practice COnsent

• Ask “Is this okay?” before moving forward
• Listen and respond to your partner’s words and body language
• Respect a “no” – even if it is said quietly, indirectly, or non-verbally
• Check in as things progress. Don’t assume it is fine to keep going

Remember, you have the right to change your mind. Consent can be withdrawn at ANY time, even in the middle of an activity. If something doesn’t feel right, you can speak up – or use nonverbal signals like freezing, pulling away, or going silent. Partners should watch for these signs and stop immediately if anything seems off.

What is enthusiastic/Affirmative consent?

Enthusiastic or Affirmative consent means seeking out a clear, positive “yes” – not just the absence of “no.” This model encourages partners to look for active participation, mutual excitement, and ongoing check-ins throughout an intimate experience. In practtice this can look like the following:

• Saying “Yes, I want to” or “I’m into this”
• Smiling, nodding, or otherwise engaging in a relaxed and comfortable way
• Checking in with questions like, “Are you still okay with this?”
• Offering reassurance such as “We can stop anytime – Just let me know.”

What Consent is not

Understanding what doesn’t count as consent is just as importnat. These are some red flags that show consent is NOT present:

• Ignoring a “no” or pushing through hesitation
• Assuming consent based on clothing, flirting, or past encounters
• WEARING GEAR IS NOT CONSENT
• Pressuring someone into saying “yes” through guilt, fear, or intimidation
• Engaging with someone who is too intoxicated to make informed decisions
• Taking silence or lack of resistance as agreement

Why Consent Matters

Consent builds trust and connection. It ensures that everyone feels safe, respected, and in control of their own body and choices. Practicing consent is a powerful way to show care for yourself and your partner. Talking about boundaries might feel awkward at first, but it is one of the most important conversations you can have. Clear communication isn’t just responsible – it is attractive, mature, and necessary.